LOVING OUR SISTERS!!👌🏿💯👌🏿

We Went Straight To The Source

As professional matchmakers we are often asked the same question by Black women: Why are some men so intimidated by us? They’re not making this up. Often times, if we are accomplished, we’re seen as too independent, and if we don’t have an established career and completely cater to a man’s needs, we’re often looked at as “gold diggers.” We can’t win! Black women are wonderful (we know this) but somehow many of our clients often believe that dating a sister is no longer “in style” for Black men. We’ve asked single Black men to share some of the real perceptions floating around about dating Black women, to help jumpstart the conversation and dispel some of the myths out there.

We Don’t Seem As “Fun”

Unfortunately Black women often have so many things we are trying to juggle that it can sometimes become second nature to not smile or take a moment to say hello. Fun can take a backseat when we’re fighting to pay bills, continue our education and make a name for ourselves. Because of this, some Black men believe that women of other races maintain a more light, airy “fun girl” approach to love in their adult years, which they ultimately find more attractive. They feel that after a while, our focus shifts from being the “fun girlfriend” to being more practical instead and solely concerned with insuring the house is clean, meals are made and children are taken care of. Those things are most important, of course, but remember that relationships need full-time nurturing and maintenance too.

We “Don’t Offer Enough Support”

Is there some truth to the perception that some of us can overlook a Black man or not be as uplifting because instead we think they need to have already arrived before we give them a chance? Some brothers seriously think so, and feel they’ve seen evidence of it early on within relationships. They often say they feel more supported by women of other ethnicities earlier on in their careers and during their college years